The male guide to female communication

We all have struggled at one point or another with women; Are women some sort of mystery that can never be solved? Or do we men have no idea how to deal with them? I know you are anxious to know how to make your partner the happiest, so let's get started:

1. Love her:
Well, the first thing you need to make sure of is your genuine love towards her. And it is not a coincidence that love came first, without the purity of your love for this particular woman everything else won't work. Women are sensitive creatures that should be reminded of things that guys consider small on a daily basis; I mean you have to remind her every once and a while of how much you love her and why did you choose her over anyone else, these words are simple yet effective. As Pamela Davis said: 'Every woman deserves a man who loves and respects her and every man deserves a woman who appreciate his efforts'.
Start making small changes towards her; Hold her hand while walking into a restaurant, express to her that you need her and value her or surprise her from time-to-time with a card or flowers or a little gift; These are just few examples on how easy it is to make your partner happy.

2. Understand the nature of women:
''Men are from Mars and women are from Venus''; This shows just how different the two genders are. Women are extremely complex and complicated creatures where Men are a simple-minded creature; The way women think for example is interesting; Women tend to think in a collective or global method therefore women are prone to become overwhelmed with complexities that exist or may exist, while men tend to focus on one task at a time.
But most importantly, Women have three physiological functions that are completely absent in Men; Menstruation, Pregnancy and Lactation. Each of these mechanisms influence behavior and feelings significantly; Try to understand these mechanisms and be extra nice when your partner is going through either one of them; Listen to what she says and try to give her some rest while you handle her duties.

3. Make her laugh:
Ask any women what she looks for in a man and ''someone who can make me laugh until my ribs hurt'' is usually one of the first things they say. A lot of guys can be good looking, charming, interesting or intelligent but not everyone has the sense of humor; And I know you're not the funniest guy in the world but that does not mean you cannot make her laugh; You don't have to use the filthiest joke on the planet or racist jokes, try to be a little awkward, share a funny family tale and be original; don't just memorize a line from Friends or a famous comedian. But my absolute favorite method is to make her laugh at yourself; If you spilled some coke on yourself during the movie just laugh it off, women love guys who don't take everything seriously. In the end, everyone loves to laugh :-).

4. Be patient:
Women can be difficult to handle sometimes, Women are greatly affected by hormone fluctuations from PMS to Menopause; And those changes can affect her mood, her weight, her food cravings or even her desire for sexual intercourse; Medically speaking, Women may undergo cramps, diarrhea, anxiety, depression or headaches before menstruation and all of those are difficult to tolerate. Therefore, patience is an extremely important feature in Men, whether your partner is angry at you or refusing sexual activities, understand that she is under the influence of hormones that are giving her a really awful time; Try to support her instead of yelling at her and think of every single word you say before saying it.
Be patient when she is late, don't make her feel guilty especially if the conversation started with 'Sorry' and let her win the argument; One day the tables could be turned and she might let you win the argument.

5. Make her feel special:
You don't have to take her to the fanciest restaurant in town or buy her the most expensive ring in the world to make your lady feel special; Compliment her in an appropriate way; Don't just tell her ''you're hot'', try to be original, say something like ''When I look at you, I know what it's like to feel comfortable and safe around someone''.
Show her that you care; Leave a random note saying ''I love how beautiful you look today'' in her car or kiss her on the cheeks out of nowhere, ask her a lot of questions to show your interest in her; Ask about her hobbies, favorite movies..etc.
Make a step forward; Put your jacket on her shoulders when it's cold, make her laugh when she is feeling down instead of standing there saying 'I'm sorry', Find out what's her favorite flower is and bring her a bouquet in your way home, take a lot of pictures together, Respect her and get to know her friends and don't be embarrassed to hold her hand in public.

6. Communicate:
There's no shame in asking your partner about what she thinks of getting a new car for example; Always ask about her point of view before making a decision even though it wasn't her area of expertise. You are sending her a message that you really care about what she thinks and appreciate her opinion in your decisions.
Communication matters more than you think; She might be hiding something but she won't tell because you simply don't ask about what's wrong. Allow her space to speak about what she feels even though it sounds silly for you. And if there's something wrong you did, let her finish her point of view before you start to defend yourself, and most importantly, learn how to defend yourself; use simple language to show her your point of view and remember that sometimes it is better to let her win the argument than yelling for 2 hours to get her to understand your point of view.

7. Be honest:
Honesty -for me- is the cornerstone for any relationship; Never think that lying can solve anything and know that if you were honest with her, she will appreciate that and do the same. Learn to build your relationship on trust; Believe me, it would be way better if you told her that you smoked a couple of cigarettes rather than she catches smoking for example.
And just because you lied a couple of times and got away with it doesn't mean that lying is the easy way out, maybe she knew you were lying but she didn't want to start a fight? She really will have difficulty believing you afterwards.

8. Don't cheat on her:
Cheating does not just come suddenly; The urge to cheat grows with time starting from simple white lies about flirting conversations with a colleague and working-late excuses until you realize that there's a distance between you and your woman.
You are a human after all and it's natural to find someone else attractive on the street or at work, But that doesn't mean that there should be flirting conversation with anyone; If someone started a flirting conversation with you, Tell your partner about it!, She may feel jealous for few seconds but she would understand that the only reason that you are telling her this is because you are truthful to her and that you did put an end to those conversations for the sake of your relationship.

In the end, always respect and admire who your partner is and do your best to make her happy. And remember that your happiness depends on your partner's happiness, As they say : 'A happy man marries the woman he loves, A happier man loves the woman he marries'.

Things I learned from being a kid

1. Never trust strangers;

Yeah, apparently your parents got this one right. We all were warned as kids not to talk to strangers or interact with anyone we don't know, and after some bitter experiences I can confirm that this myth is true.

2. Love your parents;

Really, you'll never ever have anyone who would love you and support you as much as your parents will; Take a flashback in your mind to your first day in school, first time you cried, first time you had a fight with someone, the first time you learned how to tie your shoes, What's in common in all these examples? Correct, your parents were there, they taught you everything you need to grow in this life and live your life the way you wanted, your parents are a blessing from God.

3. How to depend on myself;

Because sometimes your parents weren't there at the exact moment when you were trouble and you had to stand up for yourself and deal with it seriously like an adult. Whether it was a bully in the class or a project that you had to do, at that point you were obliged to depend on yourself because of the fear of the circumstances.

4. Never lie; 

We all have been through situations where we lied thinking that will help us to get away with whatever we did but a lot of times your crime wasn't perfect and you got caught and probably punished. In the end, I'd rather say 'I don't know' than making up something that doesn't exist.

5. Love yourself;

You are the beautiful creation of God; You are perfect in every single way, you may hate your scars but those scars made you stronger and you deserve credit on that!, Everything you are today is the result of your hard work and previous failures, always admire who you are and how much trouble you've been through to be the person you are today.

6. Adults are big kids;

Sometimes as a kid we were taught to look up to adults as role models; Perfect people with no mistakes. But I bet every kid knows that adults make mistakes as well but the spotlight was focused on kids. No one is perfect and adults are included.

7. You're not wrong because you're different;
Just because you didn't have the latest pair of shoes or you didn't follow a certain trend does not mean that you do not belong; I remember I used to be criticized by some for not being into the latest trends or not liking a certain artist, where as other people used to appreciate that I stood out from the other kids. In other words, it's not about being 'cool', your differences are what makes you beautiful.

8. Discipline first;
Your manners and ethics are what really matters after-all; Discipline is the first thing that I am going to teach my future children. Always be disciplined, no matter the situation.

9. Childhood is amazing;
Me as everyone else loved being a kid, I wanted to grow up quickly as well but now I wish those days come back again. Childhood was like a fairy tale that I will always want to live again. As they say, growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional; You can still keep your childishness while behaving like an adult.

Leadership

And you turn the page of today anxiously to embrace tomorrow, waiting for that day when everything you planned finally comes.
But soon you understand that the effort you put today won't be rewarded immediately tomorrow and that you would have to wait for good results to show up.
And you hit rock bottom, you start thinking of giving up and letting go of your dreams and never thinking of the same topic again.
But after a while, it hits you again, you start blaming yourself for giving up and the feeling of regret haunts you wherever you go.
So, you decide to start again, to re-build your castle from scratch but you promise yourself that this time you will never give up no matter what happens.
And once you find that will, there's nothing in the world that can bring you down or tear you apart ever again.
With that previous failure, you gained strength that only people with the same experience have, you became stronger.
Indeed, Failure makes you stronger, Failure makes leaders.

A letter to a mermaid

Things are not what they used to be, you lost the only one that really cared for you, I can no longer look at you as my savior or my secrets keeper.

You became one of them, a wandering soul living in a city of ghosts. You gave away who you were to seek satisfaction from people that don't care about you.

You cared a lot for what people may think of you and your flaws until it caused you to bleed from the inside,

Your self-confidence and appreciation were on a continuous downhill and every day you get worse than the day before,

You did this to yourself; you chose to be miserable and sad. You chose to push people away to live in your own fantasy world where you are the queen and everyone else are your guards.

You became someone I do not know anymore, a stranger wearing a mask of your face. A picture with a beautiful frame yet dark inside.

You got yourself caught in your own drama that I don't know when you are serious anymore.

Your words are puzzles and your feelings are a web of lies and self-deceiving. Your dreams are confused and your future is blurry.

You wake up every day, lie to yourself that everything is going as planned and you're okay while deep inside you know you would end your life if you could.

You lost the passion you had about everything. You're no longer doing things out of love, you became a person with no feelings but to yourself, a person living in a world of regrets.

You changed; And I never liked the new version of you, but I am afraid I cannot do anything about how you choose your character to be.

You were so bright and full of optimism, but now your darkness and selfishness are pushing everyone away from you. 

And even though I tried my best to pull your body to the surface but I couldn't do anything to lift you up because your lies were too heavy and you drowned.

And forever you may lie in the darkness of the sea until you find your true self again.

You gave away us when you gave away yourself.

Daydreaming

It feels like dreams can not to be distinguished from reality,
It feels like everything said or done is considered insanity.
What is there left for you after all this pain,
How can you make sure that the sun goes up after the rain?
Is it true that everyone's life is ups and downs,
Or are we either happy monsters or lonely clowns?
What if you reached a point when you're not sure of what you believe,
What about all your dreams and hopes that you had to leave?
Can our dreams ever be something real,
Or will all these words ever be something we can feel?
Will all these words one day make sense,
Will your mind be able to cross that fence?
The fence you built out of fear and lack of knowledge,
The fence that pushed your dreams and thoughts to the edge.
Another day to try to accomplish what you dream,
Another day you burn yourself by the heat of your steam.

Day after day

Another cold night I spend alone,
Another day spent at home,
Is this the way that my whole life would be,
Or will there be someone to help me, see?
The beautiful places and people that I didn't meet,
The tales and stories that I didn't hear?
But then would that be enough to fix what the years did,
Or is all of this mess something I built in my head?
And would that someone be someone I already met,
Or is that person someone that I already let?
When will this person enlighten my life,
When will this person brighten my night?
How would I say that I cannot wait,
How can I find the key to my gate?
Will I ever experience the joy of living,
Or will all my attempts end in failing?
How do I know what I left behind,
If I am not sure of the memories in my mind?
How would I know what would my future look like,
When every step I take feels like I am on a hike?
Am I supposed to build a home based on dreams,
Or shall I draw my future on schemes?
Will these thoughts ever stop?
Or will there ever be a day when I am on the top?
Another cold night I spend alone,
Another day spent at home.

Thoughts about success

They say our journey to success starts with the change you make in this life; what you add to people's life and what you leave behind and that your whole trip on this earth will not be worthy unless you leave a print in someone's life or make a difference that people will one day praise you for. But aren't we all climbing the same ladder anxiously to get to the top?
Is success defined by how much possessions you have or how many friends you have around? or is success a psychological state that correlates with happiness? Or can we say it is a mixture of both? Well, Success is being in a position where people look up to you; It's a combination of morals, education, knowledge and communications.
So how to be successful? Start with opening your window to the wind of change; accept making changes in yourself to accomplish your dreams, believe in whatever you do and understand that no matter what people say you'll always continue doing the things you love to do. Build your knowledge on past experiences, find ways to control yourself and people around you and don't just do what you are capable of, do whatever you are given the opportunity to do.
In the end, life is short enough to reach the top but long enough to reach as high as you can! so do your best and show the world what you are really made of!

Universality

What's considered normal in a world of abnormalities?
How would you stand up and face the reality?
Is this whole word thinking in a twisted mentality?
Or did humans agree to live with such brutality?
When everybody dreams of being immortal but no one cares about mortality?
What to expect from a world that creates new forms of sexuality?
Did we become aliens or are we considered with their extraterritoriality?
Why we can't find anyone to carry us, no people with great vitality?
Maybe because all we seem to care about is people's nationality?
Are we all this way or am I talking about the generality?
When you can't have a discussion with anyone because of people's irrationality?
Then you start to lose control or no longer hold your confidentiality?
I guess maybe your body and thoughts should live in partiality.

Opening doors

A lot of questions come up to the human's mind every time the word success faces them; It's not about the word itself, but about the future that is hidden for each one of us. We simply are clueless characters living in a world of perfection, a world where you have to follow a certain code so you are considered 'cool', a world where mistakes are appreciated where love is neglected, a world where we are afraid to show our love but we won't hesitate to show our hate.
Are we humans the ones who made this world this way? And if so, cannot we reverse it? Or is this the way we humans understood the world civilization? Then how would you explain that the current life style did not exist few years ago; Is this process of civilization a side effect of technology or did we humans change dramatically in a way that we forced the whole society to change as well? And if the last hypothesis was true, what caused humans to change this way?
A lot of theories can be written -yet unproven- about this whole mess but none of them will ever make sense; I may not be that old but when I was a kid, things were kind of different than what they are now; Kids nowadays seem lost, engulfed in the love of possessions and taught to brag, lie or cheat to make them look good -which is the only thing that matters to them. I guess kids are no longer passionate about life or about their own future.
But is it true that every new generation is worse than the one before it? It would be stupid to generalize and make such an assumption, but I think of it this way: Maybe the standards of raising your kids 10 years ago won't be the same as what they are now, or will be in the next 10 years? But did we actually agree to change our standards upon our own children or is this another thing that is considered 'cool'? Is 'letting your kid learn on their own' a new method to describe 'cool'? Are we actually giving up some of our best features as a society just to look 'cool'? If that's the case, I am afraid this situation is too complicated to be discussed in one paper.
Take a walk down the street at the early morning, have a little chat with one of the kids, ask them about what they want to be when they grow up, their biggest dreams, and their current life status and obstacles. Then ask yourself this question; Is this the way or the society I want to raise my child in?

What if?

You try so hard not to appear weak, damaged or fragile
But what if your legs can no longer walk a step, ten, or a mile?
You convince yourself of dreams, hopes and highs
But what if all you hear is screaming, crying and lies?
You tell yourself that one day you will reach the skies, the mountains of highest height
But what if all you see is obstacles, barriers and sand piles?
You say that one day you will be on top, the best, the one with style
But what if all your dreams, thoughts, wishes were postponed for a while?
You say you are trustworthy, smart and versatile
But what if people can see, understand, know that all you do is wiles?
You say you're strong enough to swim across lakes, ponds and the Nile
But what would happen if you were stuck on a mountain, a roller coaster or an isle?
You say you never cared about anyone, your heart is dead, you're hostile
But what if everyone can see your selfishness, your unconditional hate and your guile?
You sometimes seem interesting, smart and worthwhile
But what if everyone can see what's beneath your laugh, your words and your smile?

Negotiating with yourself.

So, what's your next step in this world of broken pathways?

Who would you trust again in a world of traitors and backstabbers?

When will you ever realize that whatever that has happened to you, happened for a reason and now you're all on your own?

What will happen if you lose your grip and fall?

But what if you believed in yourself enough to lift yourself up every time you feel low?

What if you reached a point where the only person that makes sense is yourself?

All of these questions have similar answers, you can't answer them properly because you know that you won't be able to. It is the kind of questions that you try to avoid whenever you face them, like how you avoid some people for example; it's not because you don't know how talk to them, but it is because you don't want to.

But what if we took some time to think of what was written above, why is it that every single person in the world can relate to those questions? Is it true that all of us been through the same life situations but with different people? But if that was true, does that make asking your parents or someone older than you a reasonable move? It just doesn't make sense!

I believe that all of us have been through similar situations, but it's not about the situations itself, it is about how you react to those situations that makes us different. It's who you become after those situations that makes someone strong and someone weak; someone that would easily deal with the situation if ever happened again and someone who would avoid getting anywhere near that sort of thing.

'Who would you trust again in a world of traitors and backstabbers?'; This one needs a lot of explanation; Is it true that most people are traitors and backstabbers? Are there any 'angels' out there or are we living in hell? But if someone did you wrong, why would you care about them? Why won't you just let them go and never think about them again! Unfortunately, that's not how our bodies work; Whoever walks in our life even if for a short period, they leave a 'scar' in our hearts; A scar that cannot be erased, that every time you think that you don't remember them anymore, search within yourself and you'll find their place in your heart. Are we -humans- some weak creatures that cannot forget someone that hurt us years ago? Or is that a part of our animal instinct to remind us of getting our revenge? Will these words ever make sense?

There's no one who understands you better than yourself; No matter how much you explain to someone else or how many details you give them; you just cannot transport the way you feel to them; They will never understand completely -and that also answered why you should not ask your parents. Is the way we feel so complicated that no one will understand? Are our words only make sense to ourselves? Will people ever understand how you feel without telling them? Or will you spend your life explaining for people who would never understand? I really want to answer all of these questions for you but I am afraid even I don't know the answer or ever will.

We -humans- are a beautiful yet complicated creatures; we have the brain to think, calculate, talk or do complex maneuvers but we lack one thing; the control on our hearts, and as everything will be emotionally driven, it would be impossible to explain why we do what we do!

Levels.

I have a short story that I want to tell
That there's this beautiful girl hiding in a shell
So, here's some things that can ring your bell
You're beautiful, you're funny as well
You shine like a star you're like Adele
When I am down your name is the one, I yell
Because I know you will be there if I fell
I think I am starting to misspell
but your smile is pretty as hell
I wish that you will always be happy and well
You're strong on the surface yet fragile as a gazelle
I thinking that I am starting to lose brain cells
but darling don't worry this is not the farewell
Stay here, leave or do whatever you will
whatever happens the same person I'll always still
and this person is vicious he is ready to kill
anyone who would try to take you downhill
and no, I am not another Dr.Phil
but with joy and happiness in your life I want to fill
You have this thing in you it is a skill
that whenever I talk to, I get a thrill
Uh, every day you're my favorite pill
You just need to calm down and chill

because, darling, you are an absolute gem!

Questions that needs to be answered

One more day passes by,
I am still staring at the shadows you left behind.
Is it already too late to forget?
Or will this keeps haunting me every day and night?
Will I ever have the power to convince my mind,
That moving on is no longer a choice but a method to survive?
Will I ever be happy as I used to be back in that time,
Or will I just wear my happy mask to hide the damage you left behind?
Will people accept the fact that the two us felt apart,
Or it will be another story that no one talks about?
Is it a shame that sometimes I still care about you,
Is it considered weakness that you still pop on my mind?
Can days actually erase the memories that once were cherished,
Or do we really want to forget?
When will we understand that sometimes it's easier to remember than to forget,
When will we realize that forgiving is easier than forgetting?
But how could you easily forgive someone who hurt you,
But their memory remains no matter what you do?
Are we ever going to recover from this fall,
Or will we live our lives waiting for someone to lift us up?
But what if that someone is someone you already met,
But the term 'us' did not exist?
What if you are waiting for something that will never happen,
What if you are waiting for a dream that never comes true?
What if you reached a point where your only savior is you,
Because everybody else just wouldn't understand what you've been through?
Questions that you left unanswered too,
Questions that will never be answered.